People pleasing...

When you evolve in an environment that doesn't allow you to develop physically and mentally - an environment that measures your value by what you can contribute, by the services you can render - you risk becoming an adult with few or no limits. You accept anything and everything in the name of love or friendship. You're afraid to say what's on your mind. You're afraid of being judged and finally you give in to what goes against your ideas and morals just so you won't be seen as a bad person. You ask yourself "who am I really"? And if one day you decide to take yourself in hand and say NO when things aren't going well, saying NO when you've had enough prepares you to feel bad because you feel you've hurt the other person's feelings. But that's how life goes. Those people you absolutely don't want to upset have already had to say NO to hurt you, but life goes on.

The desire to please people at all costs blocks you and dictates a life full of anxiety, a little hypocritical at times. So be YOU, have (reasonable) limits and live your life to the full! Zala yo!